Sunday, April 1, 2012

Starting A Family

Mr. M. and me at our wedding reception almost 6 years ago.

One particular Saturday in February, I was feeling especially distraught about the infertility Mr. M and I have experienced. I had a church meeting to attend that evening, and was able to pull myself together enough to meet Mr. M. there. The meeting wasn't bad, especially since it was a meeting just for adults (no children to further my anguish).

After the session was over, I remained in my seat and overheard a conversation between an elderly man and a young couple.

At one point, the older gentleman asked the couple: "Have you started a family yet?" The couple responded with a laugh and comment about their "two dogs." I think it was a little awkward for them, even though they were gracious about it.

I told Mr. M. about this and how I don't like when people ask me about "starting a family." He said it was a dumb question because we started our family 6 years ago when we got married. That was the start of our family. The two of us.

That, to me, was the perfect response.


---Mrs. M.

17 comments:

  1. Love that! I might just steal it! :)

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    1. Go ahead---steal it! It is totally true, isn't it?

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  2. Perfect and lovely. I think people should keep their noses out of people's business personally. Having a child is expanding the family not starting one.

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    1. You are right. It is expanding the family. It does amaze me sometimes (I don't know how it still does) that people ask such personal and nosy questions. Why is it considered ok in our society to do that?

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    2. I really don't think people realize what a loaded question it can be. They view having a child as a natural and normal (and simple) progression of a relationship/marriage and don't stop to think that there could be complications. Sometimes I think those people deserve an honest answer to their questions; maybe they'll think twice before asking again.

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  3. Ahh ... that is the perfect response! Good work (again), Mr. M.!

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    1. He is so great. If he were as crazy as me, we would be a hot mess!

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    2. It's like that in our relationship too!

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  4. Wow what a perfect response!! I'm totally stealing that ;)

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  5. Aww, that *is* the perfect response! What a great guy :-)

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  6. That is so sweet - and very wise too. My husband and I have been married almost seven years and I love coming home to our little family. It may just be the two of us (plus our dog and cat) but for me it's home.

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    1. That is so perfectly said. It may be Mr. M. and me, but for us, it is home, too. Now all we need is a pet.

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  7. Hi! Thanks so much for commenting on my blog. It feels like such a big world out in the blogs of infertility and It's so nice to hear from others. I look forward to following along with you and Mr. M. Cheers!

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  8. Perfect reply! My husband always gets annoyed when asked if we are starting a family for exactly the same reason. The two of you are a family already.

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  9. I'm a little late reading this, but that is the BEST response. Sounds like you got a good one! Me too!

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You are fabulous!